What must you have, be, or do, in order to be happy? What is essential for you to experience pleasure, purpose, and peace? And how do you figure this out? In my last post, I suggested that you identify your “Non-Negotiables” to avert a life crisis and reduce your Fear Of Missing Out. Are Non-Negotiables the same as goals? Not really. A goal … [Read more...] about PART II: How to Figure Out What’s Important in Your Life
I coach and mentor many people who struggle to decide what to do with their careers and their lives. Sometimes they’ve been working for a few years, and already have hit their “Quarter Life Crisis”, when they realize that they’re now doing the work that they studied for since the age of 4 -- but they can’t see themselves doing this work for 40 more … [Read more...] about Do You Know Your “Non-Negotiables” in Life?
In my last blog post, “Who Are You Comparing Yourself To?”, I described “the Comparing Mind”, or “keeping up with the Joneses”, and how it’s a great recipe for discontent in our lives. Spending your mental energy on comparing yourself to others can be motivational in some circumstances, but much more likely it just leaves you feeling inadequate, … [Read more...] about To Be Happy, Avoid the Comparing Mind
Are you comparing yourself to Mark Zuckerberg, Sheryl Sandberg or Steve Jobs? Is this bringing you happiness? Most people compare themselves to others. All the time. It’s a totally ingrained way of how we go through life. Buddhist teachers such as Jack Kornfield call this “the Comparing Mind”. This is very similar to the American saying “keeping … [Read more...] about “Who Are You Comparing Yourself To?”
On February 19, Facebook announced that they were buying the startup WhatsApp for a total value of $19 billion dollars, making this an astonishingly large acquisition of a 5-year old company with only 55 employees. I have my own opinions about the acquisition. But what fascinates me is that both of the co-founders of WhatsApp – Jan Koum and Brian … [Read more...] about “The Farmer’s Luck in Silicon Valley”